What Are Your Shoulders Saying About You

Have you ever had the cutest off the shoulder top that you were planning to wear to an event only to find that shoulders kept rising up? The point of wearing the top was not to create a thousand ways to discreetly put the sleeves back in place..especially not in front of people. Instead of making it look easy being confident, sexy and carefree, you look preoccupied self absorbed and eventually sad with immovable shoulders. That is opposite to the intention you had for how you wanted to present at this event. Who wants to make it look like they are trying so hard to look cute in their clothes? Hopefully no one know the lengths you go in order to present how you want. It is the worst when you are out dancing and you see a girdle showing when the person raises their hand too high, or even a bad face lift..usually it is bad because people can tell you had one. Now I know some people who have bragged about their tummy tuck and that's fine if it came from their mouth and not because you saw the stitches on the dance floor. The point is you want to be in control of your message. Shoulders communicate a great deal for men and women. When they are raised up in the air especially if the palms of the hands are up, the person is likely saying with their body "I don't now". When a woman looks over one lifted shoulder one might think she is flirting. Upright and straight shoulders convey confidence and competence. Men used to wear (maybe they still do) shoulder pads to look like strong leaders. Women started using them when they joined the executive workforce to fit in with men and communicate that they too could competently run an office or organization. Forward slumped immovable shoulders indicate timidity, insecurity,and disengagement, regardless of whether the person actually feels that way or doesn't wants others to know they are feeling that way. Now is the perfect time for women especially early in their careers to bare that upright shoulder to convey confident femininity. No longer do they have to act or dress like a man for others to believe they are intelligent and can succeed in business. Women can be feminine at work, although there are still some environments like in the sciences where the women and men sort of look alike, but that will likely change too as more girls are involved and recognized for their stem contributions. In areas like business women are now deemed more confident and competent when they dress fashionably. The fact that you don't have your off the shoulder sleeves rising up as you go about your daily and evening activities, be it waving to a friend, dancing, or simply shaking another persons hand, signals competence. Fussing with your clothes, trying and failing to maintain the fashion look repeatedly makes it look like your over your head in your clothing choice and that you didn't have the foresight to walk out your front door with the right clothes on. There are so many off the shoulder tops and outfits that practical people just avoid because they would never want to be in a situation where it looks like are trying so hard. Now with Barelastics, a whole new world of fashion has become available right in time for the warm weather when it is good to bare those shoulders. Go and see what looks good off your shoulder!